All Blog Posts Tagged 'Amy' (64)

Especially in the beginning of relationship, fantasy plays a big part. We meet someone, there’s chemistry, and within our head, we often imagine the person to be all we hope him or her to be. We begin to act as if he or she is that person. When that happens, we are engaging in fantasy. Before we know it, we can become embroiled in a relationship with someone we don’t truly know in spite of the long, heartfelt conversations and spark-firing chemistry experienced in the beginning. It is…

Christmas is a time of giving and receiving, but are you a good giver and receiver?  The gift exchange actually says a lot about your relationship. Many people are good at being either a giver or a receiver, but not both. Healthy relationships involve mutual giving and receiving -- cherishing others with special gestures and also allowing oneself to be cherished. This holiday, observe yourself to see how comfortable you are with both giving and receiving and look to see what it means about…

Once people have a landed a relationship, they often forget to use the skills that helped them attract their mate in the beginning. In the initial phase of love, people employ lots of positive relationship skills like giving compliments, arranging special dates, creating romance, being affectionate, keeping in frequent communication and planning surprises. Most people do these things in an attempt to win someone’s heart. Other people are charmers whose superficial charm soon fades. Yet even…

This recipe welcomes Kim “back to the office” from her trip. Our weekly business lunches at Longevity Restaurant used to habitually include the sweet potato fries. Now that Longevity has closed, here’s an even healthier version -- sweet potato fries that are baked instead of fried -- to satisfy the craving.



Preheat oven to 400 degrees.



Slice sweet potatoes into whatever size fries you prefer.



Mix in bowl with at least…

Berries rich in antioxidants and whole grains make these muffins a bit more guilt--free than your usual bakery muffins. Enjoy for breakfast.

11/2 cup whole wheat pastry flour

1 cup cornmeal

1 Tbsp. baking powder

1/2 tsp baking soda

1 tsp cinnamon

1/2 tsp salt

2 free range eggs

1/2 cup honey

1/4 cup raw sugar

1 cup buttermilk

6 tbsp. unsalted butter, melted

1 cup raspberries

1/2 cup…

Too often, people focus only on what doesn’t work in their relationship. When you focus on the positive, your relationship will become more positive. What you focus on expands. This week, take the time to identify what does work in your relationship.



Ask yourself these questions:

• When you are getting along well, what are you doing differently than when you aren’t getting along?

• When you’re arguing and the fight finally stops, what did you do to turn things…

This week’s relationship tip is to bring work home. My advice is not to literally bring work home so you have less time to spend with your spouse. My advice is to bring the skills, energy and ambition you utilize at work home and apply those same skills and motivation to your relationship.



Did you know that most people treat the people they work with better than they treat their spouse? Think about it; it’s true. I bet you’ve said things to your spouse or significant other in your…

In any long-term relationship, people trigger one another – meaning that one person’s behavior leads the other person to react in a negative way. If you look at your own behavior, there are many situations in which a change in you may prevent your partner from reacting negatively. Reflect on the times your partner gets upset, explodes or acts in a way that you don’t like, identify what you are doing immediately…

Imagine your partner is right there beside you always. Whatever you do in life, act only as you would if your partner was present. When you live your life this way, you are unlikely to betray your partner. Betrayal isn’t just about infidelity. It is betrayal when you say or do anything that you wouldn’t feel comfortable doing with your partner standing right next to you. It is betrayal to hide behaviors your partner wouldn’t like, belittle your partner or say things to others…

Anger is a part of any healthy relationship. Any time anger is felt is actually an opportunity for repair. The feeling is an internal signal that something is awry and needs to be addressed. The problem isn’t with the anger itself; it is in how it is expressed. When anger is expressed inappropriately, the issue then becomes the behavior around the anger rather than the situation that initially needed to be repaired.…